[Editorial] Do Rappers Hate Their Mothers?

by Lyricalthought on February 17th, 2010

This woman is the one who gives birth to you, and raises you from child to adult, she follows and supports you through all of your trials and tribulations, cries for your pain, celebrates for your struggles, and in many cases is the motivation to your unbridled ambition for success. She is your mother. Beleive it or not rappers have mothers as well, these unsung hero's helped to develop and nurture the rapper that you so faithfully follow today. They toiled endlessley working everyday sometimes two jobs, to make sure that this young man had a fair chance in life. Through this developement if things are natural, he should find himself wanting a female partner who is at least somewhat similar to the image of a woman that his mother has portrayed, but in Hip Hop, this dosent happen, instead these artist look, the spitting images of their mothers in the eye, give an agressive #Kanyeshrug and greets this woman with the word Bitch.

Hip Hop in its short time as a recognized genre of music, has seen many artist walk through its doors of sucess. These artist have spoke on topics ranging from their, neighborhoods, childhood experiences, the regular hustle, current fashion trends and even their families. But one natural occurance that I have noticed in this genre that we all love so dearly, was the regularity in which women are degraded. This is not to criticize any artist, or to put a negative spotlight on any said individual, but instead it is a deeper look into what motivates the men in this industry who claim to have so much love for their birth givers. To disrespect someone who was made in the same image of their mothers. They degrade females on a constant basis, and for this reason we must ask ourselves, do rappers hate their mothers?

It is common for men to search for in their female counterpart some traits that they would find in their mother, this is understandable as she is the prime example of womanhood that any man has. So the females he interacts with, along with the ones he date will always on some level they have a relation to his mother, whether that be through physical, mental, or even emotional traits. Although it's a bit of a stretch, the way that he addresses, or acts towards these women can be taken as a reflection of the perception of his own mother.

http://media.defsounds.com/uploads/assets/152/230/32301/asset.jpegWith that being said, Rappers proclaim undying love for their mothers, but in the very next instance, write women off as groupies, and hoes. They Swear to defend their mothers, with their own lives if they have to, but in some lyrics brag about physically abusing women, or forcing them into sexual acts. Rap mega star Jay-Z has several songs dedicated to his mother, in his album, but was a known womanizer before he married now wife Beyonce Knowles. Rappers like Drake, and Lil Wayne constantly talk about the influence of their mothers on their lives, but in the same instance brag about the amount of women they have conquered. To put things quite simply rappers preach, but never practice.

Although some people will try to excuse these actions with the idea that these women do not represent what the said rappers mothers reflected, this argument is null as all of these victims are female, just like their mothers, and if anything else have that one small trait in common. Which brings to question, why are so many rappers so disrespectful, or apathetic towards the female sex? Is this a way to express homosexual or erotic feelings towards men by lashing out at women, Is there some sort of internal resent that can only be expressed through disparraging words, and promiscuousness, and if so where does this hate stem from?

Did their mothers do something wrong to them while they were growing up, and if not what motivates them to be so disrespectful to the one thing that so many claim to adore? The most logical answer seems to be an inner hatred for their mothers and women in general, there is no other way to explain it, because their statements contradict their actions. They portray their love for women, than write them off as replacable. Proclaim devotion to their lovers, but cheat on them. Protect their daughters, but lay their hands on someone elses daughter. These examples and many more are proving points to a possible resentment, just think about it. I say everyday that I love my laptop, I do not in the next instant poor a bottle of champaign on my laptop, or use it for five minutes, get bored, call it a Bitch and purchase a new one. I dont behave this way because the Laptop has meaning to me.

http://media.defsounds.com/uploads/assets/153/231/32302/asset.jpegSo if these rappers, love their women, their sisters, and their daughters; what exactly is going on here? There is clearly a disconnect between love and hate through music and it is one that we must discuss and research to discover. But until than it is the job of you loyal fans to figure it out. What is your take on the issue?

 
 
 
 

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cypressds6 months ago
i think you are right a lil bit but i think the music is only a form of entertainment to give people who might not be good with women a fantasy that they can get into and invision in their mind that they’re a pimp or a ladies man. also if its not family members then the girl aint gonna mean a lot to them if thats the way the person is.
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iseedeadpeople6 months ago
my mom did drugs and drank when she was pregs with ya boy – so now im supposed to love all bitches? fuck that. and fuck this feminist manifesto masked as a blog. i couldnt make it past the first 1000 words.

im still pissed that females have voting and property rights.

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freshswagger9946 months ago
sooo does a stripper have any similarities with your mother…i hope not
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crazedhiphop6 months ago
lmfao @ deadpeoples last sentence. wrong on so many levels
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nohomo6 months ago
lyrical thought, you bad for puttin that pic of ri-ri up
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laxalbumof086 months ago
Welcome back LyricalThought, great blog…
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50kingz6 months ago
is rap all scripted like wrestling..i like wrestling and it seems that these “rappers” play characters and not be themselves when in the studio..i.e. Rick Ross was a c.o. not a big tim drug dealer..Plies went to nursing school and raps about being a goon..it really is all entertainment and 90% of rappers are fake..
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dantheman6 months ago
Id say go listen to NWA’s a bitch is a bitch, they summed it up pretty well ago like 25 years ago

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imill6 months ago
i liked this blog…great and almost perfect points
but you did forget to mention that the reason rappers say this stuff is because of what a woman might have done to them…
i’ve had my heart broken, lol let me stop myself before i pour my heart out, but it is what is
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saginawrap6 months ago
I don’t think Eminem likes his mom very much.
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moonman6 months ago
EMIENM ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT HIS MOM.. HE HAS A WHOLE ALBUM DEDICATED TO HER LOL
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platinummacc6 months ago
I agree with this. But still, some woman are just BITCHES real talk. Golddiggers and women who just want to use other men are BITCHES. Men fall in love if they meet the right woman, and sometimes that woman will take advantage and make the man her bitch. Maybe rappers just suck with women so the get rich and go from one to the next.
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water6 months ago
did your mom make you write this?
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notyou6 months ago
If, for some reason, I call a female a “bitch” and she gets offended – then she’s a bitch!
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raiseup6 months ago
“Although some people will try to excuse these actions with the idea that these women do not represent what the said rappers mothers reflected, this argument is null as all of these victims are female, just like their mothers”
thats bullshit. its like saying if you commit a crime towards a white man you hate all white people, or you hate your white friends/parents/ect… just because you act a way towards certain types of people doesnt represent how you feel about every individual of that sex/religion/race/ect..
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thepeople6 months ago
“The most logical answer seems to be an inner hatred for their mothers and women in general, there is no other way to explain it, because their statements contradict their actions. They portray their love for women, than write them off as replacable.”

The way I see it, the amount of respect you demand for yourself is how much I’m gonna give you, like Pac said, if you act like a bitch, imma call you a bitch (Thug Angel Doc I think). Essentially, some of what your saying is correct, people proclaim one thing, but some people respond to how you act as a “person”, not your gender.
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justblaze086 months ago
the reason we do it cause women makes us do it like hoes excuse my french theyre not disrespecting their mothers its the hoes and goddigging women that ticks us off so we take that steam off by disprespecting them in lyrics
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nohomo6 months ago
yeah hip-hop is very contradictory like that. The way I see it is it’s just a form of entertainment. It doesn’t mean I’m going to go out and hit a woman, or force her into sexual acts. You gotta think all these women that rappers talk about are someones daughter, mother, or sister.

I guess I’m just supporting it by listening to their music, but I think that most rappers just see that that is what’s selling so they follow suit. Sad but true….
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crazedhiphop6 months ago
LoL @ your laptop comparison son…. i was dying reading that last half. This was a good read though. It’s that young mentality to show off and some how feel like they are more of a man by talking about the biiiiitches they be getting. It’s a standard that has been adopted and looked up to sadly but oh well…..

Heffner is a true pimp though having 3 pieces and they all know about it and smashes beautiful chicks on the daily
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mrwhitefolks6 months ago
Who Murshed?

You Murshed!

= iMurshed
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crazedhiphop6 months ago
shut up Whitey LoL …..
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bws086 months ago
even tho she pisses me off 1/3 of the time, i love my mom haha
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writer16 months ago
stupidest shit i read in a long timme , there’s women like your loving mum and there’s a gold-digger like kelis’s sorry ass or bitches that get men set up or groupies that just because your on tv want to fuck you and follow you around just because i call a hoe a hoe don’t mean all women are hoes

in tupac resurrection he says it best their go watch it again
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2eaglesonehead6 months ago
Its funny that you put a picture of Pac on here.

Go drive around for a week and bang his first 6 albums and you will have a clear understanding of why these rap niggaz call you bitch.

Its just a word. Similar to the word nigger. It will always have a little sting to it. Simply because of its meaning.
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psmurf9546 months ago
My take on the issue….Superhead.
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virginiasw6 months ago
Man good blog its the truth but I mean there are women out there that is with someone just for the fame and fortune so some rappers will rap about their experience with women they been with and down them with name calling such as, bitch. Even your mom tells you about the women like that.
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murderinc6 months ago
i like Em’s mom … we have a history together
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n3v3rfke6 months ago
i think ur on target with a lot of what ur sayin but i feel like there’s also another explanation.
I think it could also be that since many of these rappers were raised by single mothers, their moms were these rappers everything. There’s no other person that cared that much about them. In this way its simply impossible for any other woman to compare to her and so therefore they don’t feel as if these women deserve respect. True they may seek out certain things that remind them of their mom. BUT when they come to see the ways in which they are not like their mother it furthers the divide.

again not sayin ur wrong but i feel like my theory may hold some truth to it as well.
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lyricalthought6 months ago
This is a really good way to look at it. Thanks for the feedback
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pleet6 months ago
difference between a slut and a woman homie, just fyi
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wabafo416 months ago
The entire point of view from your article is biased, because there talking about fucking a woman it makes it a bad act? Did you ever think woman want to have sex?, and enjoy it? I’t seems you have a moral problem with sex more than a problem with rappers. Your mom is on a diferent relationship level than an average fling, same as your sister, girlfriend, etc. Obviously your gonna have a differen’t opinion of them than some random person. Same way its different with your dad, brother,etc. And haven’t you ever heard lil’ kim? How’s that not the same exact thing?
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lyricalthought6 months ago
After reading your response I have come to the conclusion that you did not actually comprehend anything that I wrote in this Editorial, so I am now categorizing you as Ignorant. Enjoy the rest of your Online banter
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cardeezy176 months ago
I hear what you sayin’, but I don’t think it means that rappers hate their mothers. When you go through an experience where a female is only tryna get at you because of who you are, or what you have, or tries to set you up on some shit, or have you get them pregnant to eat off you, these types of actions will never warrant the same respect that you have for your mother. So when these selfish, greedy, shameless women try to use and abuse the talents and benefits you possess, you reply by calling her a BITCH. Not because you hate her, but because that’s exactly what she’s being at the time.
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sparkfirehot6 months ago
i would fuck the shit out of p diddy’s mom.
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mvpeace6 months ago
“And since we all came from a woman / Got our name from a woman and our game from a , woman/ I wonder why we take from our women / Why we rape our women, do we hate our, women?/ I think it’s time to kill for our women/ Time to heal our women, be real to our women/ And if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies/
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies” -tupac
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futrebruin116 months ago
@ deadpeoples Lmfao ..man “It’s only entertainment”..every women doesnt deserve respect just as every man doesnt reserve respect, when women act like bitches they get called em..simple as that..and this is a lil too oprah-ish of a topic js lol
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whysoserious6 months ago
da hoes and groupies jumpin on dick for the fame so i dont hate on rappers for sayin shit bout them coz face it g them females want da dick for da attention of beein seen on tv or in a magazine photo. RIP 2pac top 3 dead or alive
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shwabster6 months ago
bullshit topic. why do rappers or anybody have to love EVERY woman if they love ONE woman? the logic is absent
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wabafo416 months ago
obviously you didn’t comprehend this guys article, welcome to the club of “ignorants” lol. I guess if having a contradictory opinion of the article YOU wrote, i must be ignorant. Were you the little kid that yelled at everyone else in school if they didn’t acknowledge your painting as the best?
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shwabster6 months ago
your attempts at being insulting are so ridiculously retarded that i bet you still ARE the little kid in school. Or else your fukin brain development stopped around third grade. I didnt try to get any “painting” out there, ya dumbass, I commented on the topic.

As for why it’s a bullshit topic, well, the whole premise for it is so flawed it would take me a page or two just to write out the basic inconsistencies. E.g., the assumption that every man is looking for his mother in his girlfriend is extremely contradictory. That’s not a fact, that’s a opinion, and yet the author is stating it as fact and basing even more far-fetched conclusions off this ALREADY far-fetched assumption.

I’m probably not getting to your limited little brain right now, but to make things simpler for yo dumb fukin ass: I love my Mom and treat her like a gentleman, but many of the bitches I meet outside of home I can cuss out, etc. There is NO natural law that says “if you treat most women like shit, you hate your mother”. That’s just nonsense.
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guamatian6 months ago
Look it’s like this. I love my mom’s and any niece or cousin I will have, and would protect them from harm if I can. It’s an instinct.

With that said, we’re men. Men do this, we fuck around, try and holla at chicks at the club, and drink with the homies talkign about the past bitches you’ve fkd. I’m happily married now, but it’s a part of growing up, and def don’t regret it.

This is no disrespect to the guy that waits 6 months before getting some ass with his boo, because he wants to “respect” her….I tip my aht to dudes that have the patience like that. But in all honesty, how many dudes you know is down to do this?
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makaveli14906 months ago
There are bitches and women out there

Most of these rappers come across the groupies – the bitches in their lifestyle
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purenathan6 months ago
Dunno why this dude is making it sound like all women are sparkling gems glistening in the daylight or some shit. Not everyone’s mom is a good mother.

That aside its pretty stupid to compare another female to your mother or any female to another one because all of them are different in some way. Secondly there are some females whom don’t deserve respect and indeed deserve to be labeled as a bitch so yeah…

Also I’ve noticed a trend in the quality in females these days, its really hard to find a good woman =/ All these hos with the whole horse attached to their head and wolverine like claws on their fingers and shit.
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